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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Standard_Air_8714 on 2023-08-02 04:15:23.
I (29F) married my husband (30M) about 7 months ago. We had a big wedding, welcome guest party the day before, brunch, etc. all covered by us. My husband’s aunts on one side and all of his cousins came (9 people total) and did not even get us a card.
We have gone to multiple weddings for people in this family and have paid for our flights, hotels (some were destinations), and given at least $300 every time. It honestly made me sick to my stomach when we saw that they didn’t get us a literal $2 cvs card. My husband was bummed for a minute but then just got over it (he’s an “oh well” kinda guy with pretty much anything).
My husband recently said they were all catching up over text and asked us to go on a cruise with them in march, saying they would love to see us. I told my husband I’m not comfortable with that after what happened with the gifts at our wedding. He scoffed and said that no one necessarily deserves a wedding present and we should be happy they came. Personally, these are not really people I want to be close with - I image that we will get stuck paying for everything (as we have in the past) since there is just little care. I feel like they tend to often be selfish and use us for things and I don’t really want to spend my money and vacation time on a cruise with them versus doing something else. A lunch, fine, but not a whole vacation.
It isn’t that I need an expensive gift. One guest brought us these wine glasses that she found at a thrift store for $4 and they are beautiful and one of my favorite gifts!! Not only are they beautiful, but you can tell how much thought she put into the gift and wrapping. It’s that they came and didn’t even bother to get us a card or really wish us well. It just feels disrespectful.
My husband is upset with me and says he can’t really go by himself since it’s all couples. We’re at an impasse. AITA for refusing to go on the cruise because they didn’t get us a wedding card or present?