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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/smileysloth9 on 2023-08-02 08:49:46.

So today my boyfriend (19M) and I (18F) watched Oppenheimer and the Barbie movie with our friend (20F). For some context: the friend and my bf are very close and have known each other since long before we started dating. Well, after we had seen Oppenheimer and before Barbie, the friend made a random comment that came in the middle of no where. It was that Florence Pugh has nicer tits than I do.

Now, right off the bat, first thing to come to mind is like, “oh, of course she does, she’s a celebrity.” But not only is this random girl making this random comment, my boyfriend said nothing about it. I let this one slide. But she wouldn’t stop. She then said that I don’t even come close to comparing with Margot Robbie. To this, my boyfriend disagreed and said that I am very pretty. In that moment, I thought, “this girl doesn’t even compare to ME. Who does she even think she is, saying all this stuff about me?” It sucked being told such mean things regarding my appearance, as I already am a pretty insecure person.

But, anyways, we started watching the Barbie movie. At this point, as I’m sure you can tell, I was feeling kinda gross. About myself, about the people with whom I had surrounded myself, etc… My boyfriend tried to comfort me, putting his arm around me for a good chunk of the film. Well, the movie got to the scene where the mom was giving her speech on what it means to be a woman and feminism and stuff like that. This scene really moved me as I related to a lot of what was being discussed. And then the worst possible thing happened. My boyfriend started to laugh at the speech. I instinctually removed myself from under his arm and sat pushed away for the rest of the movie. Afterwards when I would make attempts at talking about how it made me feel and the broader implications of him not taking it seriously, our friend would jump to his defense, excusing what he did because it “was probably just uncomfortable” or “really isn’t that big of a deal.” She brought up the fact that, as she is trans and hasn’t been a woman for her entire life, she still views a lot of it from a male perspective. So I said that, if she thinks that she has a male perspective, then it isn’t really fair to decide that isn’t a big deal to her specifically. After this whole exchange, I distanced myself from them both. She later apologized for being a dick and just really contentious all day.

So, AITA?