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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/2024Bride on 2023-08-02 14:59:33.

Am I the asshole? I am going to be a 2024 bride to the absolute love of my life.

Growing up my mum has always played the victim in every situation. I don’t ever remember having an apology from her or her admitting that she was in the wrong.

Don’t get me wrong, she does alot for me. When our relationship is good it’s really good!

Anyways, it’s just under a year to the wedding and I have started planning my dress and the bridal parties outfits.

My mum(MOB) also said she wanted to start planning hers. She started showing me full length white dresses. I explained to her that I did not want any resemblance of white for outfits for anyone going to the wedding.

She went ahead and ordered all white long dresses and has fallen in love with the colour. I told her she would look beautiful but for my wedding day I want to be the only one.

She had turned the victim and has now said my wedding will look horrendous for her not being allowed to wear white. She has accused me of me not wanting her to feel beautiful and that the day always has to be about me.

What do I do?

EDIT- I am in my early 20’s. I have only reconnected my relationship with my father over the last year(After 10 ish years). So it will be more than likely her walking me down the aisle…