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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Historical-Yam7902 on 2023-08-03 15:29:36.

Told my sister in law i won’t be her nanny anymore

Backstory, I’ve lived in my camper for the last 4.5 years traveling with my husband for his job. We have 2 kids and 2 dogs until recently when we rescued a third. (Space is fine, we spend lots of time outside). When my SIL had her baby last October, we moved our camper to their property so i could be her childcare. My husband was still traveling, and we only saw him once a week. We were staying there for free so i didn’t expect her to pay me.

Fast forward to March of this year. I told her i missed my husband and would be going back on the road until my son starts school this year. Told her she needed to find childcare by April first, because that was when i was leaving. She didn’t find childcare until the day before we left. We came back last weekend, and there were some mix ups with the RV park we were supposed to be staying in back here in our hometown, and we didn’t have a spot once we got there. SIL says no problem, you can come back here until you guys can get in. I asked if i needed to watch the baby or can we just pay rent, she said “don’t worry about it!”

When we left in April, i told her she needed to get her baby on a waitlist for a daycare because i will be too busy to take care of her if we moved back. She didn’t. She had her husbands sister keep the baby, and never found a daycare. She’s been having issues with the sister taking the baby to strangers houses and getting stranded with no gas in 110° heat so i said i would keep the baby ONLY until she got her into a daycare. She said “no, it’s fine. I’m looking into daycares now” so then night before last, she comes to me and says “_____ got a job. Can you start keeping her next week?” I told her i could but she still needed to find a daycare. She said “I’m not finding anything that’s in the price range i want to pay”. Ended up keeping the baby yesterday and after realizing how HARD it was going to be on me with a puppy, toddler, one starting school, and a mobile baby, i told her i couldn’t mentally handle it and we could discuss rent for the remainder of our time there. She said “you’re my only option”

Things is, we’re about to buy a house. It’s not my problem that she keeps waiting to find childcare until the last minute. I can’t schedule buying a home around her being a procrastinator. I’m so fed up with her i want to leave today and force her to figure it out. She never looked into childcare costs when pregnant because she always just assumed the stay at home sister in law would keep the baby. She wants to pay $800/month. CHILDCARE HERE FOR AN INFANT IS AN AVERAGE OF 1200/MONTH!! I feel trapped.