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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Business-Narwhal7310 on 2023-08-03 20:34:18.

I (27f) was born into a homophobic & religious family. I am bisexual.

When I was 22 I was dating a woman, some “concerned citizen” told my brother (now 35m, was 30m at the time) he told me he knew everything and he gave me an ultimatum to tell our parents or he would. I begged and cried for him not to, my parents disowned me and withdrew their financial support for college (I had one year left) but took me an extra 3 years to graduate bc I had to drop down to part time so I could work all the while couch surfing and barely making it by, as almost all my earnings were going to school.

It was tough but I made it.

He has a 12 year old daughter, apparently her mother died when she was only 3 so brother has been a single dad (dated here and there but didn’t find “the one”). He contacted me out of nowhere, saying his daughter is aching for a female adult figure in her life, especially since starting pu berty(I suggested our mom but niece doesnt feel comfortable with someone “old.”)

He never apologized or acknowledged what he did, he just said God commands us to forgive and he’s willing to “overlook my transgressions” and I said “even God doesn’t forgive without sincere repentance, read your Bible.” They cut me off, and my life has been better without them.

I know she’s innocent in all this but I don’t want my family back in my life especially brother after what he did, I hate him. But if I’m in contact with niece I’d have to be with him and my parents, they’re a package deal.

AITA?