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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Artistic-Type3855 on 2023-08-04 14:02:07.

My wife and I welcomed our daughter, Calla, into the world in June. Ever since our daughter’s birth my wife has been struggling with PPD and PPA. It has been a very rough road for her and I was lucky to be able to take some extended paternity leave so I can be around more for both of them. I say all this because everyone in our life knows how much my wife has been struggling since the birth.

When my wife was expecting we did not announce the name. My mom said announcing the name before baby is born can lead to a lot of unwanted opinions that can be stressful for the pregnant person. So we waited and announced her name with her birth. Quickly, as in, when my wife’s sister visited the hospital, my wife’s sister told her she could not understand us choosing the name. She said it was weird, she didn’t think it was “even a name” and told my wife she should have sought opinions on it. My wife told her sister we loved it which is what mattered. She and her sister have a contentious relationship and my wife is half afraid of this woman. I suggested to my wife’s sister that she could choose to keep her mouth shut which she just rolled her eyes at me.

She said something to my wife twice more while alone with her. And when my wife was really starting to find day to day incredibly difficult.

So when she brought it up again, in front of more people this time, and by saying she hated the name and would never choose that for her daughter, nor would she have expected us to pick such an ugly name, I decided I’d had enough. This woman shrugs off being firm/serious so I decided to be mocking. I was like OMG how could we not take what you want into account, how could we be so selfish of course we should have taken your opinion into account over ours, because your opinion is clearly so much better than ours and everyone clearly thinks your taste in everything is the best, how can we live with ourselves not getting YOUR opinion on OUR daughters name. Then saying it’s just as well we decided to listen to our own hearts on the name because who knows what she’d have come up with it when she’s clearly very full of herself. The people around us laughed, including my wife who had looked close to tears before that. SIL was furious and said making fun of her was childish on my part. She was so enraged it was actually funny because I have seen people yell at the top of their lungs at her and she’ll shrug it off. SIL said she was looking out for our daughter and I crossed a line. That everyone laughed but most would still support her. A few people did congratulate me on standing up for ourselves in the only way to make an impact with my wife’s sister.

But the woman did not learn anything from it and while it made my wife smile for real for the first time since our daughter was born, I worry her sister will just retaliate on her. Even though it’s me who she’s pissed at.

AITA?