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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Comfortable-Dark-120 on 2023-08-04 16:51:26.

I’m having my wedding at an adults only resort.

They absolutely do not allow minors.

I did this to save myself the hassle of fighting with my family over exceptions to my “no children allowed” policy.

My husband and I are paying for the wedding ourselves and we are paying for our guests to attend.

It is a destination wedding so we didn’t want anyone we want there not to be able to come because of finances.

I made the invitations very clear about whether kids were allowed or not.

I recieved a lot of RSVPs saying that they regret that they cannot attend.

I totally understand.

Except now my sister found out that I’m paying for everyone to come and has lost it.

She said that she only said no because she didn’t have anyone to watch her kids.

The oldest is sixteen and has watched her siblings while my sister has gone on vacation in the last month.

I said that everything was booked already but that if she made her own arrangements she would be welcome at the wedding with her husband.

She asked if we would be paying for whatever she arranged and I said no. I had already paid for everything I had budgeted for.

She said that I’m an asshole for not wanting her at my wedding. I said that if I didn’t want her to attend I would not have invited her.

My parents are now saying that I tricked my sister into not attending.

My sister isn’t poor. And the cost for her and her husband would have been $2000.

She just wanted me to bend and allow her kids.