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The original was posted on /r/exmormon by /u/LunaBananaGoats on 2024-09-19 16:59:28+00:00.

My grandma’s funeral was this week. During the last three weeks of her life, she had moved into a special private care home and had her membership moved to that ward. These people didn’t know her and she didn’t know them.

The member of the bishopric conducting was the last speaker. I went from hearing fond memories of my grandma from loved ones to listening to a man who didn’t know her talk about Nephi, Joseph Smith, and how special the Mormon religion is because they have sealings.

I feel hurt and a little bit angry. Especially as he preached this to my grandma’s nearly 30 grandchildren (all adults) when half or maybe more of us don’t belong to the religion anymore.

Don’t know what I’m looking for. Maybe just understanding?

Also, on the drive there (it was a five hour drive) my mom referred to my cousins as inactive and I said I personally strongly dislike being called inactive myself and that started a fight. This was also around the time my mom made super judgy comments about cousins on her side of the family not wearing garments and when I said many active people don’t wear garments she shut me down and said she couldn’t talk about it because it’s too emotional. Mom, you’ve always been judgy about garments and it fucked me up for years.