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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Witty-Couple2017 on 2023-06-21 04:42:24+00:00.

I (21 F) am currently 34 weeks pregnant. I have been with my boyfriend (23 M) for 6 years. My mother blames him for the reasoning on why me and her isn’t close at all. Which in reality she is the reason. Years of using me, taking my money, physically, verbally and emotionally manipulating me is the cause of it. She has never liked my boyfriend due to the fact that in her head she believes he “took” me from her. I was never allowed to see him and I was only allowed to leave the house to go to work. I ended up packing everything and moved out in the middle of the night when I was 20. I went no contact for a couple of months until I found out I was pregnant. I felt that I was obligated to tell my parents because this will be their grandkid. When I told my mother she said that I purposely laid on my back and she was NOT happy for me and is not happy about “that thing” inside of me. When that happened I went no contact for another month. She is now happy that my daughter will be her first grandchild, but still is not happy about who the dad is. He is not welcomed at my parents house for any circumstances. My boyfriend has never done or said anything for her to hate him as much as she does. I recently had my baby shower on June 18th and my parents were the only ones who didn’t show up. Due to all of this I only want my boyfriend in the delivery room. I don’t trust that she will keep her downgrading opinions to herself in a moment that is supposed to be joyful. When I told her about this, she said that I am selfish for taking that moment away from her. I told her that after one hour of bonding time we will welcome everyone into the room for everyone to meet our daughter. Her response to that was when I get discharged I need to bring our daughter to her house without my boyfriend so they can meet her. WIBTAH if I inform her that if she doesn’t come to the hospital to meet our daughter she won’t be allowed in our lives?