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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Final_Bus7047 on 2023-08-04 23:54:14.

When your spouse comes home after being at work and you are still working, do you get up and greet them at the door?

Context:

I work from home. I’m SUPPOSED to work 8am-430pm but my husband always pressures me to log off at 3. He works from home sometimes but sometimes he is out during the day for anywhere from 1-6 hours.

He always gets mad that I do not greet him at the door, that I am not dressed up and ready for sex at 3pm, and if I work any amount of time past 3 (even 15 minutes) he says I am a workaholic (even though my hours are supposed to be until 4:30pm). He also asks me to do some housework during my working hours (nothing crazy, just vacuuming, switching laundry, emptying the dishwasher) but if I can’t get to it because I’m in meetings all day or extremely busy at work he will get mad, even if I offer to do it after 3pm.

He says all I care about is work. He also said I’m being ridiculous because I don’t even have to work (he makes a ridiculous amount of money) but I LIKE my job, and love my coworkers, and I’ve been promoted several times and make 6 figures and just never want to be completely dependent on anyone because you never know what will happen. Also, I’m genuinely not the sahm type, I would go bonkers.

He is in sales so if he’s not out at a lunch with a client or something he’s home and he admittedly has a lot of down time when he is home, so I guess he thinks my job is the same even though it’s not. He says he only actually “works” a few hours a day.

Anyway, my rationale for not greeting him at the door when he comes home is:

  1. Sometimes I’m in a meeting or on a call
  2. Sometimes I genuinely don’t hear him come in
  3. When I do hear him and I’m not on a call I’ll call out a “hey/hi”/whatever
  4. We live together. I see him everyday. He also isn’t ever gone an insane amount of time, 6 hours at MOST. And that’s rare.
  5. I work in the same room every day. He knows where I am. Why doesn’t he just come greet me?

AITA? Is this something other couples do?