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I am NOT OP. Original post from /r/cscareerquestions by /u/RegularUser003.

a month ago i told my boss i wasnt happy and was looking for a new job. he said he understood and that people do need to move on occasionally, which i appreciated. he also said he felt it wasnt a good fit which really surprised me, as i thought he might want to offer higher pay or more benefits to retain me. he said if i could wrap up my work before leaving in the next few weeks, that would be appreciated, but he said it was fine either way. he also said he wont be replacing my position or rehiring so no need to worry about overlap with a new hire.

i spent a month applying and didnt get any interviews or even to the screener round. i dont want to leave anymore. however i am not sure if i should tell my boss. he hasnt been assigning me much work obviously, which is nice, but i dont have much going on. im not sure what to do in this situation. i don’t love the job but i have bills and such to pay.

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I…. I don’t know what to say here… You basically arranged yourself a layoff

i’m honestly in disbelief that someone would make a series of decisions this bad. telling your boss you’re quitting? before even starting the job search? then giving up…after a month? then…trying to come back and telling the boss like nothing happened???

Sorry for the harsh language. You fucked yourself. You fucked yourself soo hard. They are already looking for your replacement. Better ramp up your search because your time is limited.

People who read this sub and think it’s people like their smart colleagues posting here… just read this post. This is who comments here

LOLLLLLLLL…Looking at your post/comment history you are extremely active on Reddit and particular on Dev & CS subreddits. How could you have seen the state of the market over the past two years and thought it was a good idea to tell your boss you are leaving without even having started to apply for jobs. At this point your only option to basically beg your boss for you job back which based on his comment is unlikely.

Editor’s note: OOP continues to edit throughout the day, below:

edit: judging by the responses, i have screwed up telling my boss i wanted to leave.

that said, as someone pointed out, my boss screwed up too by showing his hand. i think i will check in with my boss and see if he wants to keep me now that he has had some time to reflect; maybe rather than me needing to seem desparate i can get him to admit he would rather i stay on so i can agree to stick around a while longer. i dont think he can rehire right now even if he wanted to as the company is really focused on optimizing for free cash flow right now. so him saying “im not rehiring” might have just been bluster if he wasnt going to be allowed to anyways.

the project i am on now is winding up but i could help out with forward looking initiatives and such. plus i could spin it that i really just didnt like working on that particular project if it comes up at all. if at all possible id like to come out of this keeping my job until the storm passes and without hurting my opportunities inside this company.

edit2: talked to my boss. we went back and forth. he said he understands but then he said he would like to proceed with what we originally discussed. he said he already planned around me leaving. so i guess he doesnt really understand or care about my situation. fml. i hope others can learn from this at least.

edit3: today was my last day. HR plus my boss called and said they wanted me to drop off my stuff tomorrow. im kind of mad he decided to end things like this instead of giving me a chance just because i decided to be honest.

going to log off and take a break to cool off a bit. having all of this negativity didnt help much either. but its my own fault for over sharing as well. i think im in shock. at least they gave me 4 weeks severance i guess. fuck.

OOP has not commented on the post itself nor on reddit in general since this post.

They have stated in a previous post on r/ExperiencedDevs that they’ve led teams “between sizes of 3 to 60,” for context on where in their career they are.