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I am not The OOP, OOP is u/spicedpumpkins
Not really a cat person. HOW do I gently stop neighbor’s cat from bringing me dead things?
Originally posted to r/cats
Thanks to u/La_Dame_Va_Se_Facher & u/soayherder for suggesting this BoRU
Original Post Sept 11, 2024
I’ve got a pretty large property and don’t mind the neighbor’s cat hanging out chasing mice and other things but it’s constantly walking right up to me and brining me dead things when I’m outside.
I don’t feed the cat and barely pay any attention to it except when it rubs up against me and purrs. I’ll give it a quick pat and move on to whatever I was doing, gardening, etc. Otherwise I basically ignore it.
Anyways, the frequency of dead things plopped at my feet has gotten to almost every day. I don’t want to be mean and scare it or anything, it’s welcomed to relax or prowl the yard but it’s a looooooong walk from one end of the yard to my trashcans to dispose of the things it brings and it’s getting old really fast.
Update 1 Sept 12, 2024
In a nutshell, the neighbor’s cat keeps bringing me dead things almost daily. I don’t hate cats, but cats are just not my jam (sorry sub, no offense). If cats are around cool, no big deal. I’m an animal lover.
I have no issues with the cat itself. It’s welcomed in my yard to do as it pleases and I practically ignore it unless it goes out of its way to come up to me. I’ll give it a quick pat or scritch and move on to the many things I have to do in my yard.
I forgot to mention the actual issue is not that it brings me dead things, but the dead things it has brought me and I didn’t find right away, attract ants. Where I’m at, ants can pop up out of nowhere in the hundreds or more if dead things are not disposed of quickly.
This summer I’ve been at war with ants and they are such a pain to deal with especially if they’re swarming the dead things left by the cat. Then lugging the dead thing waaaaay over to the trash cans is also a huge pain. I’ve been working hard to get the yard landscaped the way I want it. I’ve planted specific flowers to attract birds, butterflies, small wild life. It’s gotten close to looking like a little sanctuary. It requires a ton of maintenance as I clean daily any seeds not eaten in the feeders, mowing, trimming, etc. The cat walking around in the yard is no issue for me as it seems not to bother any of the small wild life except for mice and seems to enjoy the yard vs its owner’s yard for some reason.
It’s an older cat and I don’t think it’s right to spray it with a water bottle or try to scare it or be mean to it as some suggested here. That’s just not an option for me.
I called my vet to get their advice and he said to soak cotton balls 1:1 with food grade vinegar and water and lightly dab my wrists, neck, ankles, shoes, etc. The vet said the vinegar is totally safe for the cat but cats don’t like the vinegar and will associate the scent with me and in theory should stop approaching me and will likely give up trying to give me dead things. The vet said it might be a good idea to actually lure the cat to me with a simple treat to make sure it approaches me, smell me, dislike it and leave. So one quick stop at the market for the vinegar, cotton balls, cat treats and dabbing myself all over like my vet advised and I’m good to go.
VOILA! PROBLEM SOLVED right? Nope.
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My beloved dog wouldn’t even come up to me the entire rest of the day
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My wife said I stunk and demanded I shower. I told her I still had a lot of chores outside in the yard and she said I can’t step into the house until I showered. I told her I would shower after my chores.
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The cat showed up as usual and brought me another dead thing (partial grasshopper this time) and I did what the vet said and gave it the cat treat. It not only approached me and didn’t flinch at all at my smell, but went crazy purring and rubbing up against me after I gave it the treat. Like purring so hard I could feel the reverberations when it rubbed against my pant leg. Unusually, the damn cat followed me around most of the day and kept interfering with what I was doing, pruning, sweeping, etc. Running in front of me while I’m carrying things to the wheelbarrow, zipping between my legs, laying down right where I’m about to trim. I’d gently move him and the little bastard kept coming back. I’d make sure I’d hold out my wrists for it to smell and that did jack shit. Cat didn’t even care or seem to notice the vinegar smell.
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I did a lot of work in the yard but still had more to do so I was going to go take a quick nap on the couch and then get back to the yard but my wife wouldn’t have any of it and kicked me out. She told me to go nap near the pool in the nice shaded area I had set up with lawn furniture and a hammock. Didn’t want to argue with the boss so I went to the hammock. Took a nice nap only to wake up to find the fucking cat sleeping on my chest purring, ass right in my face.
I gently let it down on the ground so I could get back to my yard work and right there under the hammock another dead thing the cat left for me…covered in hundreds of ants.
FML. I give up.
Update 2 Sept 22, 2024
First of all I’d like to thank everyone who gave sincere well meaning advice here as when I say I’m not a cat person, I really mean I’m not a cat person. I don’t dislike cats but I’ve always grown up with dogs and other than bumping into the occasional cat in the periphery, I have almost no knowledge other than the basic guy off the street.
There seemed to be some conflicting advice in the thread: ignore the cat, pick up the cat constantly, feed that cat, don’t feed the cat, instead of vinegar try citrus, no try peppermint instead of citrus, eat in front of the cat, etc.
To answer a couple of questions from the thread.
- Maybe the cat belonged to the previous owner of the house and has hung around. Nope. I’ve owned the property for over 20 years. I had the former dilapidated house demolished and over the decades slowly added the main house, 2 small guest houses, the pool house, etc. The cat literally showed up on the day the new neighbor below the hill moved with their stuff. I simply connected the dots.
- Are there any poisonous plants in my landscaped yard. To my knowledge NO. I have a dog who I would take a bullet for and when I hired the landscape architect and arborist, I made sure to request nothing would be planted that would harm my dog or any of the local wildlife but at the same time I wanted to attract butterflies, hummingbirds, etc. For this same reason, despite it being a really easy solution to my ginormous ant problem, I refuse to use chemicals / pesticides in the yard.
TRIAL AND ERROR…advice from the thread that worked or didn’t work.
CITRUS AND PEPPERMINT: First of all I wasn’t going to make the same mistake again of putting on a scent that would upset my dog. The day I tried the vinegar my dog tried to avoid me all day and would only begrudgingly come to me when I insisted and called him over. The only citrus I had around was some strong citrus soap smell from one of my wife’s fancy soaps she has all over the house. Tried it around the cat, nothing. Didn’t deter the cat at all. I didn’t try peppermint because I don’t like the smell of peppermint myself.
IGNORE THE CAT COMPLETELY: Impossible. The damn cat refuses to be ignored. The more I ignored it the MORE it would walk in my path, lay down exactly where I’m working in the yard, follow me constantly.
EAT IN FRONT OF THE CAT BUT UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE DO I FEED THE CAT: Didn’t work. The cat would just stare at me and bob its head back and forth intently watching whatever I was eating then bob its eyes to my mouth and just watch me chew. Still brought me dead things. I was strong. Held my ground. I didn’t feed the cat even though I’m pretty sure it was asking for a bite of whatever I was eating at the time.
“LOVE BOMB” the cat, constantly pick it up. Go over the top to pay attention to it. To the people who gave this piece of “advice”, if you were trying to help, then thank you. If you were trolling, then congratulations, you got me good.
Not only did smothering the cat with affection and constantly picking it up not work, it backfired. HARD.
The cat became obnoxiously clingy and would demand I pick it up and give scritches constantly interrupting what I’m doing. Sometimes it won’t stop meowing incessantly until I do a quick pick up and scritch. Put it back down only to have it do the same thing less than an hour later. Man, I’m busy, I don’t have time for this.
So…upto this point basically NOTHING worked. After trying some of the thread’s advice? Significantly worse.
Cat still came around every day. Every day still brought me dead things. Followed me everywhere but now every now and then I gotta pick it up to rub its tummy / give it a scritch to hit the reset button so it would stop meowing at me. It incessantly follows me.
There was only one single d…
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