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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Ok-Sink-4709 on 2023-08-05 05:16:56.

I, 29(M) have a sister 22(F). She has recently lost her fiancé in a car accident and has fallen on hard times. I offered her up my home as I had an extra room and she has been living with us for the last couple of months.

I have 2 daughters, 8 and 2. My eight year old goes to school and my 2 year old is in daycare. My sister works in an office at the center of the city weekdays and has the weekends off. I work as a nurse and often have long shifts so my sister picks up my daughters when I can’t. Here is where the issue starts. I have recently found out that my sister goes clubbing every weekend after checking her social media. When I confronted her about it and asked where were my daughters while she went clubbing. She simply told me “at a friends house”. When I ask her who this friend is exactly she told me it was “some who aproached me at the bar”.This made my blood boil. I know it has been rough for her since her fiancé has recently died and she isn’t in the best mental state, but that doesn’t excuse her from leaving my children with total strangers and getting drunk every weekend im not home. The idea that something terrible could have happened to my daughters shook me to my core. Out of blind rage I told her to get out and get her stuff. She isn’t exactly in the best state to be on her own and I have my parents calling me the asshole because I have thrown her out but they don’t seem to understand the extent of the situation. Who knows how many times this has happened and what my daughters have been through. So can sm tell me, am I the asshole?

(Ps I forgot to mention but me and my wife have recently separated after she had an affair and gets the girls summers and holidays. She also lives in another state)