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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Many-Cable-789 on 2023-08-05 12:32:25.

I (26F) have always struggled with friendships in adulthood. My husband (36M) knows this and always encourages me to break out of my shell and be myself and create new friends. I do just that, now he’s accusing me of cheating. I’ve never cheated with my husband, EVER.

My friend Sam (M) I just met about 8 months ago at work. He’s funny, caring, everything you’d want in an overall friend. I don’t find him attractive at all from a relationship standpoint, for context. I’ve hung out with him and another friend, Cara(F) many times after work. My husband sat me down last night and accused me of cheating because I went to look at cars at a dealership with Sam; we are both on the market for a new car. Husband didn’t like that it was just him and I. Even got to the point where he tracked my location on my phone and watched the Ring footage to see who’s car I was going into. Husband has met Sam before and they hit it off pretty well, which makes this whole thing it’s cause idk what got into him.

Sam is my #1 best friend on Snapchat and I don’t know how. We snap 2-3 times a day, mostly just pictures of the floor and wall. Husband doesn’t like that it’s not him instead. He told me this last night when he sat me down and explained that I’m not allowed to hang out with single guys, especially alone, because “I know how they are”. I told him I’m able to be friends with whoever I want to be and if I saw any signs of them wanting to make a move, I’d obviously end it right then and there and block them for good.

AITA?

EDIT: I only put a brief description of Sam in here to give fellow readers an idea of who he is as a person/nothing negative to present to the table because I haven’t noticed anything bad or sketchy happen within our friendship. I am not attracted to Sam in any way, shape or form.

Edit #2: I am now at work and cannot reply, but I appreciate everyone’s input. Sometimes I just need an outsiders perspective. I’m going to self reflect and take advice that was given. Thank you all for helping :)

Last edit #3. I spend every day with my husband, maybe 1-3 times a month with Sam for a few hours, with other people, going out to lunch, the mall, etc.