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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/LiterallyJustAnEel on 2023-08-05 14:59:57.

My roommate (24F) and I (25F) moved into a house together several months ago and up until now everything has been completely fine. She’s been with her boyfriend (28/29M) for a year or two and initially they were going to move in together but he changed his mind at the last minute. They’ve now decided that they want him to move into our shared house for the remaining 6 months of our tenancy, but they don’t think it’s fair to have him pay rent for those 6 months, all they’ve offered is for him to cover his share of the bills for water/electric/council tax etc of which he’ll be the one mostly responsible for driving those bills up as he’ll be spending more time there working from home than me and my roommate. For context, our rent is £1000 split between us and the bills are only around £300 total so he would be paying £100 of our total £1300 rent/bills. His job also involves constant loud calls, so I’d struggle working from home at the same time due to the noise. He would be sharing a bedroom with her and there is a spare smaller bedroom, currently used as a dressing room, that was offered for him to use as his office which he refused.

When I said that I would be fine with him moving in on the condition he pays one third of the rent, both my roommate and her boyfriend have become very standoffish and have sent me messages where they’ve essentially said:

  • I’m a hypocrite because I lived at my aunties house during COVID lockdown rent free (when my plans to move in somewhere fell through on the day, with all of my things in the van)
  • I spend a lot of time at my boyfriends anyway so why do I even care if he moves in?
  • I’ve personally affronted them by suggesting that he pays a third of the rent
  • made me out to be greedy and putting money above my friendship with both of them
  • the weirdest part is they both have this stance of suggesting that I’m “going through something mentally” and that by doing this I’m pushing them and all my friends away? they’ve also both condescendingly wished me luck in getting through whatever I’m going through and hoping I get better soon.

I’ve offered to vacate my part of the tenancy so he can move in with her and I can move in with my boyfriend but they’re not interested in that either, even though that way they both get to live together and I can remove myself from this situation that has gotten very uncomfortable.

Another important note is that the boyfriend has a very well paying job, and is from a wealthy family and is in no way struggling financially. If he were to move in I’d be earning the least out of everyone there. Even if he were to move in and pay 1/3 of the rent, he would still be paying less than he did for his previous house, and more than likely less than any other place he could find in the area we live.

AITA?