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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Gullible_Still_9934 on 2023-08-05 09:28:48.

I (16F) went to a wedding of my parents’ friend’s son. A bit of background: I’ve been playing piano my whole life and am frequently asked to play at events. I haven’t personally met the groom since I was a baby, and I’ve never met the bride nor her family until the wedding.

A few days before the wedding, my parents told me I would be performing a piece on the piano during reception. I didn’t think anything of it because I had previously played at other weddings several times, so I prepared for it not knowing there was a severe miscommunication coming up.

The groom’s father, who was my family’s friend, met me during the reception and guided me to the piano, where I begun to play the piece. I really thought it was totally fine because it seemed the father of the groom had organized the event and coordinated it all with the bride and groom’s blessing. However, a bit after I started to play the bride walked up to me, looking very angry and demanded I stop.

She then blew up at me. She said that it was her wedding and her day and reprimanded me for having the audacity to try to steal the spotlight at her wedding. It became very obvious to me that she was not filled in/informed whatsoever of me playing. I told her I thought I was invited to play, and she said she doesn’t even know who I am. The groom’s father rushed over and tried to explain, but it was clear I had already upset her on such an important day.

I really feel so bad. The last thing I wanted to do was ruin her big day. The reason I made this post is I really want to reach out to her to apologize, but my family is telling me not to because she was TA for yelling at me. Her words were harsh, but I can understand the frustration because who would want some random girl playing piano at her wedding? AITA?