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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Defiant-Safe8458 on 2023-08-05 16:33:04.

My (25f) stepbrother Mike is married to Alexis. Alexis has a 3 year old daughter, Millie. We are all on holiday at a resort, along with our parents and my brother Will.

Alexis is one of those people who thinks their kid is everyone else’s priority, and frequently tries to get other people to look after Millie so she can have some “space”. Now, no issue with a parent needing space, but you can’t take that space by forcing people to look after your kid. She always tries to guilt us into doing it, or she will say “I’m just going to the bathroom/fetching something quickly” and disappear for ages. This morning, she tried that while she, Will, and I were at the pool. I said to her “Alexis, you need to take Millie with you because we are not watching her. You are leaving her unsupervised” but she ignored me, thinking we would just put up with it because we had no choice.

The second she was out of sight, Will and I got up and left the pool area. We went to get drinks and sat down elsewhere. After about twenty minutes there was a loud announcement made that Millie’s parent needed to come and collect her from the lifeguard. When we met back up with Alexis she lost it on us, saying we endangered her child. I said she endangered her child, as she was told twice that we would not be watching her, and she obviously hadn’t just gone to the bathroom because it was 20 minutes before she even came back.

Alexis is still mad, and Mike is mad. My mother says Alexis should have been taking better care of Millie, but my stepfather says we shouldn’t have left her like that, even if Alexis was wrong. AITA?