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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Guilty-Possible-2545 on 2023-08-05 19:08:42.

I (34m) have been a single dad to my 11 year old son for the past few months as my wife died. It has been very difficult for us, but especially my son. He adored his mom, and he’s really hurting right now. Because of that, I’ve been doing everything I can to make him happy. This includes toys, his favorite snacks, and stuff like that.

My sister was supposed to stay at my house for a week. Everything was fine the first day, but the second day she started complaining that I was spoiling my son and her kids don’t have this. I asked her what she was talking about and she mentioned how many toys I’ve gotten him and how I’m letting him have too many snacks. This made me really upset. Obviously I’m not going to do this forever, but my son literally lost his mom a few months ago.

This started a huge argument between us. She refused to listen to my reasoning and we kept getting madder at each other. Eventually I asked her to leave because I was starting to have a panic attack and couldn’t deal with it. She stormed out of there and now her and my parents aren’t talking to me.

I don’t even know what to think right now. I’ve been trying to make my son happy, but it’s possible I’m going too far. Am I the asshole?