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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/UniqueResult1245 on 2023-08-05 22:08:54.

Throwaway account because my friends use Reddit.

I (25m) have been dating my girlfriend “Eloise” (23f) for a little over a year now, and we’ve been living together in my apartment for just under three months. At first it was great, she instantly tidied up the place and generally made it a lot brighter, but for a couple of days every month she becomes absolutely awful.

Eloise has “endometriosis” which, as I understand it, is a condition which makes the tissue in your uterus weaker or something, anyways basically when she’s on her period, all the things that normally suck about it are like 10x worse. Or at least that’s how she explained it to me. Some of the things that she does on her period are: she uses my bathtub a lot to help with her cramps and though she always cleans up after herself, it’s a little uncomfortable knowing she was just bleeding in it. She tends to throw up a lot on her period which makes my job (I work from home) really difficult because they can hear her in the next room over while I’m on zoom calls. And guys, I cannot describe to you the smell. Like it’s so bad and I’ve bought her air spray to use after she uses the bathroom on her period and she has gotten better about it but still. Also, she’s really lazy while she’s on her period. Like sometimes she won’t move for an entire day, just laying on the couch. Basically, it’s become increasingly annoying for me to live with her during the (usually) 5 days or so when she’s on her period.

Her period is coming up and I decided I really couldn’t stand the thought of having to deal with it all week. So the other day, I very politely asked her if she would be open to staying at a hotel while she was on her period so that I could get more work done and have warm water, and so on. I told her I would pay for it of course and help her pack, but she just looked at me kinda shocked. She said she needed to think about it so I left her alone for the rest of the day. I figured she wanted to make sure there were good hotels around or something but at dinner she surprised me by saying she didn’t want to leave for a week each month and that if I didn’t want her here when she wasn’t feeling well, then maybe we shouldn’t live together. I told her she was being ridiculous and that this was no reason to ruin our relationship, but all of our friends are saying I’m the asshole. If everyone says I’m in the wrong I’ll apologize, but right now it seems like we either break up or I have to deal with this until we do so I’m kind of in an un winnable situation.