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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/luvelykitty on 2023-08-06 00:46:15.

I (14F) have never liked my dads (37M) friend (34M) because he was always acting weird around me and my older sibling (19F). A week ago I went to a birthday party we threw for my younger cousin (12F) and since she is classmates with my dads friends son, both of them came there, his wife also came 1 hour after them. I was wearing a blue dress I just bought, it wasnt that short but it also wasnt that long and it was tighter around my chest, I sat in front of my dads friend at the table and I noticed that he kept staring at me, I was creeped out by that but I didnt say anything to not ruin the party. After some time he started looking at my chest and then spoke about how developed I am for my age and that he could mistake me for someone around my sisters age if he didnt actually know my real age, what he said ruined my whole mood, I went inside the house and stayed there with my older cousin (17M) until my father told me we had to leave. When I went out my dads friend was the only one there and he looked at my legs then my chest again, when I noticed that I told him that it was not ok to stare at my chest when I am 20 years younger than him and that it was even weirder that he also did it in front of his wife and child, I told him that I thought it was disgusting and then went to my dads car. Im guessing he didnt tell my dad about it then but yesterday my dad came in my room saying that what I said to his friend was not ok, that I ruined his friendship of over 10 years and that I need to apologise to him then he left my room, after that I locked my door because I didnt want him to come in again. A few hours ago his wife sent me a text, I dont know how she got my number, saying that I disrespected her marriage and that I am an annoying little btch, I am 100% sure that he told my dad and his wife a whole different story but they’re both refusing to listen to me, he also told other people from my family and almost all of them said that I was disrespectful, the only one who belives me and defends me from other family members is my older cousin.

Was I the AH for calling him disgusting for what he did?I really need to know how to get my family to listen to me because I do not know what to do, I am scared that my father will still take his side even after I tell him what actually happened.