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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/CPrauser on 2023-08-06 00:59:32.

My (41F) parents divorced in 1991 when I was 10. My father remarried in the midst '90’s, as did my mother. The 2 rarely spoke when I was growing up & most communication was relayed thru me (lovely parentin, huh?).

In April 2021, my dad contracted Covid & passed away a month later, essentially destroying my whole life…that’s a story for another time though. My step mother receives his survivors benefits.

In February of 2023, my step dad passed away from various health issues. Since they were married over 10 years, my mother would receive his survivors benefits. Makes sense, right?

Cue to 2 months after he has passed, my mother asks me to borrow my dad’s death certificate. When I ask why, she states she could get more from my dad’s survivors benefits than from my step dad’s. She also claims to need it for a passport in the future (absolute horseshit).

I told her no, she’s not getting my dad’s death certificate. The woman hated my father, to the point that she didn’t even recognize him when she saw him when I was grown. I really don’t want her benefiting from my dad’s death at all. They’ve been divorced over 30 years & she has never been anything more than an asshole to me & my kids.

She hasn’t hardly spoken to me since. So…am I the asshole???