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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Sufficient_Stand_690 on 2023-08-06 08:29:50.

So for a bit of necessary context, I (22f) was “the golden child” as a kid. I struggled to get good grades, join a ton of clubs, do my chores perfectly, have good manners, etc. ANYTHING for my parents approval. Which I got, they said that I was a good kid (if I was doing good) and a lot of family friends said that I was a pretty good kid. In contrast, my older (23m) and younger brother (19m) were a little different. They were both pretty big troublemakers as kids lol. They weren’t made to get good grades and weren’t held to the same rigid standards as I was.

Anyway, I was looking at Facebook yesterday when I saw a post that my mom (47f) made. It was one of those “rank your kids” posts that were making the rounds around her friend group. The ranks that I would like to mention were like “which of your kids was the most emotional? Who overreacts the most? Who’s the most whiny? The most exhausting to look after?” And my mom listed me first for ALL of those and more.

I know it’s not much of a big deal, it’s just a silly ranking game but FUCK it hurt my feelings. I confronted my mom and said that she shouldn’t have done that list at all, cause it hurt ALL of our feelings. I told her that I didn’t understand, I absolutely broke my back as a kid to make them happy. My dad stepped in and dismissed me, saying that it wasn’t a big deal and I was overreacting.

So since yesterday everytime they talk to me I act like a snotty five year old. Example: My dad asked me to fetch something for him and I folded my arms and said “Nope. Don’t want to”. When he got mad and demanded what had gotten into me I said “well, I’m the most whiny child apparently, so now I have to make up for lost time”. I’ve made such a fuss over it that my mom has deleted the post and my dad called me a bitch and is now avoiding me. AITA?