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The original was posted on /r/tifu by /u/Bright-Equal-2422 on 2024-10-22 22:35:49+00:00.
TW: sexual harassment
I (23f) have lived with my cousin Rose and her husband Dumbo (both 33) for over a year for economical reasons. We have had a lot of issues but I could handle them. 6 months ago I began to realize that Dumbo was looking at me more. I’ve always been sure to wear appropriate clothing in front of him and I’ve never even been without a bra outside of my room. Even so I noticed that his eyes were going to other places constantly like my boobs, ass or more below. I thought that it was just my imagination but just in case I started wearing around the house oversized hoodies and sweatpants and nothing body fitting, but I stilled noticed that when we would have conversations he would deliberately stare at other places. One night as I was lying on the couch laughing at a video on my phone he came up to me, asked what I was laughing at and before I could answer he bent down and put his head on my boobs at an angle he could look at the phone screen. I was in shock and I am ashamed that I just let it happen. That’s when I knew I had to tell someone, especially my parents, but I didn’t have the courage, so I stuck it out.
More comments were made but the one that disgusted me the most was when he said “hey, is it me or have your boobs gotten bigger?” I asked why the F he was looking at me that way and that he was so off for that but he just laughed. I got the courage to tell my stepmom and dad and they were both shocked. They said that I needed to move out ASAP, and that I also needed to talk to Rose about Dumbo’s behavior and I would also need to talk to Dumbo. It took a bit of pushing but I finally got the nerve to sit down with Rose and tell her everything that had happened and this was the reason I was moving. She said that she would talk to him but in the end this was my problem with him and I needed to fix it. I thought that after she spoke to him he would come to me and apologize or say something at least, but that never happened. 2 days after I told Rose that I was expecting an apology on his behalf, and I was going to talk to him myself about everything. She said that would be useless because he said he was never going to talk to me again as he claims he did nothing and apologizing would mean him owning up to what I claimed happened, that both of them were going to wait until my dad was back in town so he could solve everything. He claims that I am just trying to put my family against him and ruin his reputation. I left to go to work after that, but in my mental state I forgot something and when I came back I caught her talking to her mom them talking about how they didn’t believe anything I had said and that the three of them would tell my parents that I’m trying to divide the family. With three people ganging up against me I am worried that they’ll manage to change my parents mind. I think I fucked up by bringing this whole thing up, I may have just ruined my whole relationship with everyone, possibly ruined a marriage, and in the end I’m starting to even doubt my own judgment on what could have just been a misunderstanding. I fucked up by not staying quiet.
I’ll update if its requested.
TL;DR: I fucked up by telling my cousin and my family that her husband has been inappropriate towards me, my cousin and her husband are now trying to convince everyone that i am a liar, I may have just fucked up my relationship with my whole family.