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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Key_Neighborhood8138 on 2023-06-21 11:32:18+00:00.

So my husband works crazy hours, he’s gone 6 days a week basically all day. I’m a sahm and am going to school online, and do some freelance work from home. I get zero breaks. And on his one day off each week he wants to do stuff as a family, so I still don’t get a break. Anyway, his work schedule changed so that he is going in an hour later but has to stay an hour later. I thought it was great so he could spend some time with our child in the morning and maybe I could get a shower in that’s actually uninterrupted. Well the first day of the new schedule I wake up and he’s already gone, so I call him, and he’s at the gym. And I explained it would be nice if he let me know he would be going instead of just assuming. Also, we have weights and a whole gym area in our basement (my gift to him) and so I truly don’t see why he has to go to the gym… and didn’t even know he had a membership until now. Then he explained that he’s going to use his extra time in the morning now to go to the gym before work.

So instead of me getting any break, my days are now 2 hours longer. Because he is getting up at 6 to go to the gym, then getting home at 9pm.

I also expressed that I think it’s highly unfair that I am unable to do things for my own self care without a babysitter (that I end up paying for) and that’s if you consider going to the dentist and doctor to be “self care”

Anyway, AITA for being not okay with this and standing my ground? He said he’s still going to go, and that he “can’t do all the workouts he needs from our basement”