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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Extra-Perception-79 on 2023-08-07 02:29:02.

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I (M31) have been married to my wife (Sara, F29) for almost 2 years now. Things have been pretty smooth so far, and we haven’t had any real arguments until recently.

Earlier this week, my younger sister (Amber, F27) came to visit. During her visit, Sara discovered that one of her necklaces was missing. Sara and I searched most of the house, but we couldn’t find it anywhere. It was at this stage that Sara loosely suggested Amber might have taken it. I told her that Amber would never do anything like that, and the conversation ended there.

Yesterday morning, the day Amber was leaving, Sara told me she wanted to search Amber’s room before she left. I asked her not to and assured her that there was no way Amber would have taken it. Sara didn’t sound convinced but didn’t say too much, and I had to run to work.

Later that day, when I was driving Amber to the train station, I noticed she seemed upset and was much less chatty than usual, so I asked her what was wrong. She was hesitant to answer, but I persisted.

She eventually revealed that while I was at work, Sara had requested to search her room for the necklace. Amber reluctantly agreed. After the search yielded no results, Sara proceeded to ask Amber to search her bags. Not wanting to argue, Amber complied, but nothing was found.

I was livid by this and apologized to Amber multiple times. I assured her that I would address the situation with Sara. Amber asked me not to, as she didn’t want future interactions with Sara to be awkward. I reassured her that Sara’s behavior was unacceptable and that she needn’t worry.

After dropping off Amber and returning home, I confronted Sara about the incident. She claimed she “needed to be sure” and that Amber had been “acting suspiciously” and “was being superficially nice.” I told her that her actions were completely unwarranted and a major breach of Amber’s privacy.

Sara insisted that she was only trying to protect her belongings and said that she didn’t believe her actions were disrespectful. She continued to argue that Amber’s behavior had been suspicious, but I interrupted her, stating “enough.” I firmly expressed that her accusations were baseless and that she had made my own sister uncomfortable in my house. We argued some more before I finally told her that I didn’t want to hear anything more about the necklace unless it’s an apology towards Amber.

AITA?