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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Throwaway_150000 on 2023-08-07 13:43:05.

I’m a 42-year-old dad with two adult daughters, Jane (25) and Sarah (27), from my previous marriage. Recently, I got married again to an amazing woman, and together we have a sweet little daughter named Lily (3).

Here’s what happened: While cleaning out the attic, I stumbled upon some old toys that belonged to Jane and Sarah from their childhood. These toys were just gathering dust, and I thought it would be a great idea to give them to Lily. She absolutely adores her older sisters, and I thought the toys would bring her so much joy.

However, things didn’t go as expected. When I gave Lily the toys, Jane and Sarah got upset and hurt. They felt that these toys held sentimental value and had been expecting to keep them for their future children. I honestly didn’t mean to hurt their feelings, and I had no idea these toys were so special to them. I just wanted to see Lily happy, and it didn’t cross my mind that there might be any issues with giving her the toys.

So now, I’m wondering if I messed up and if I’m in the wrong here. Should I have checked with my adult daughters before giving the toys to Lily? I really want to maintain a strong relationship with all my kids, but I’m not sure if I crossed a line.

Edit 1: To those saying I had a kid at 15, back in my town a lot of people had kids very young and by mistake. I don’t know how it’s relevant to the post I made, but yes I made a mistake and had my kids at an age I shouldn’t have.