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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ThisIsABurner321 on 2023-08-07 16:43:46.

I (31 F) was recently invited to my boyfriend’s cousin’s wedding as his plus one. It was a really nice wedding ceremony and then later on we were sitting at the reception as the wedding party entered.

The entrances were like they all were, a little ridiculous and cringey but it is what it is, just your typical wedding entrances. Then the best man and the maid of honor were introduced and in their entrance, the maid of honor twirled the best man and I thought that it was a little weird but just chalked it up to being silly and having fun.

Then came the toast from the best man. In the toast, the best man didn’t use a script on his phone and just spoke to everyone, a crowd of 400, which was surprising to me because typically men, at the other weddings that I’ve been to, need some material to go off of and keep their speech going. In the speech, he didn’t really seem to touch on the more masculine things that you typically see in best man speeches but rather on things I thought were more feminine. When he finished the speech, he went directly in for a hug with the groom rather than a typical handshake or whatever else guys do.

All of this and plus how much it seemed he cared about his appearance led me to say to the girl next to me; “That was a good speech and all but do you think that he is bisexual?”

She responded, “Well that is his fiancé right there” as she pointed across the table to a girl, to which I then turned to her and asked the same thing, if he was bisexual.

She looked confused and said, “No” to which I responded “Are you sure?”

The girl next to the best man’s “fiancé”, immediately responded, “Well I am his (the best man’s) sister and I think I would know if he was.” And it turns out that I was at a table with many of the groomsmen’s plus ones and some of their family members. I took the hint to change the subject but it seemed like it was a touchy subject for some reason.

The night went on and apparently word had gotten back to the groom’s family, my boyfriend is the groom’s uncle, and the grooms’s family was upset with the comments that I made, as it turns out the best man is really close to their family and felt embarrassed that someone would say this to him and some thought I should apologize to the best man and his fiancé for continuing to press questions. But I felt it was a valid question that I was curious about and even tried to defend it more by saying he seemed to care too much about his appearance and that he danced with a bunch of people and not just his fiancé throughout the night (not grinding or anything but just didn’t have his full attention on only dancing with his fiancé).

This has caused a small strain in my relationship with my boyfriend because his family is upset with me but I don’t think it is valid. I just want to know, AITA?