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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/throwawayfeelings89 on 2023-08-07 19:24:14.

I (19F) and my mom (53F) went to spend a week at my grandparents’ house for a week. It’s in a small village and basically everyone knows everyone. My cousin (17F) came along as well)

So it happened that yesterday one of my mom’s ex colleagues (she retired) was in the village. We knew she was from the same village as well so it wasn’t a surprise that she and my mom come across one another. My mom invited her colleague to drink some coffee in our yard and the colleague brought her son(around 27ish). The colleague and I knew each other from before.

I didn’t know that they were there up until my mom called us with my cousin because her colleague wanted to see me. I went to them and as soon as we approached the three of them I hear “come on we don’t eat people “ coming from her son and “why did u choose to study in state ONE?” from the colleague. It’s important for the context to say that I will be a junior in college this autumn and I was accepted in several states , the most important of which are ONE and TWO. My choice was TWO due to personal reasons.

When I get to them the colleague continues by saying “ You should have chosen state ONE because he (her son) has a 3-bedroom apartment and you could’ve lived with him and wouldn’t have paid for housing.” Even tho I brushed the comment off as a joke I felt really creeped out and when I shaked his hand the feeling of uncomfortableness got even stronger. The colleague continued with “I’ll be leaving him to u for a few days , u can go for a walks etc” and I was like yeah yeah because I didn’t know what else to say and both my mom, my friend and I thought it was a joke, or at least the offer was out of some sort of politeness and wasn’t serious.”

After they left I explained to my mom how this whole situation really creeped me out and how uncomfortable I felt. My cousin was with me in that saying it was quite weird to set us up like that. Not only the age difference but the whole interaction was really weird. My mom said it was all jokes.

It was until an hour ago when the son came to search for us. I got really weirded out and just went to my room and locked it,5 minutes after my mom tried to get in, I heard her apologising to him and saying we couldn’t make it.

I feel like an asshole, because I probably overthinked and overreacted. I feel really bad that he had leave without us hanging out but I couldn’t help but think about yesterday. My mom says I took it too far and we could just hang out for 15 minutes with him and I think she might be right.

So AITA?