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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Pirates-Penguins on 2023-08-07 22:53:37.

My (39M) wife (38F) has had a couple complete strangers ask her if she is pregnant. Today I was there for the encounter and gave the woman a very hard time about it.

Backstory. My wife and I are happily married with 3 kids (8, 5, & 2). We struggled with fertility early on but have been blessed in having 3 awesome kids. My wife is not obese or fat by any means. She carrys some extra skin/weight in her stomach area following giving birth to 3 full term kids. This is no issue in our relationship and she even sees a doctor regularly. None of us has commented a need to lose weight.

This year we’ve had three encounters with total strangers asking her about being pregnant. One involved a man asking if she was pregnant when she got on an amusement park ride. One was a random woman at a department store asking her the same. All situations 2-3 of my children were present. Both I was not present for. Both very much upset my wife (understandably) and I was left to pick up the pieces.

Today I was there with all three of my kids when a stranger striking polite conversation asked her if “another was on the way”. I had it. I asked her wtf was wrong with her and how she would like it if some total stranger asked her if she was pregnant. I also told her that no normal person would ever bring that question in to casual conversation. She apologized before we walked out separate ways.

Am I the asshole for this? Do people normally bring this up as casual conversation? I understand the ride operator at the amusement park (I guess) but feel everyone else was out of line. I would never ask any woman, even those I know who are pregnant, about their pregnancies, ever.