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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/No-Challenge-3704 on 2023-08-07 23:09:55.

Some details omitted due to privacy. My friend recently stated dating a man who if you google his name you can find hundreds of videos of him spewing hate speech, giving the white power symbol, and news articles directly quoting very controversial statements he has made in his podcast. My friend did not want to tell me his history because she knew it would taint my view of him. He has told her that he has changed and doesn’t believe anything he had said prior and he claims that he can’t get into his account to delete all of the hate speech videos. Though he says he doesn’t believe those things and is embarrassed to see himself in those videos there is no public apology and he is still suing his former company that fired him for his hate speech and involvement in the Jan 6th insurrection. She says it’s important to her that I like whoever she is dating, but she knows I have zero tolerance for hate speech especially white supremacy. I’ve told her that I am just not going to like him. I understand that people grow and change but if he is still suing for wrongful termination for “free speech” how much has he really changed? Am I the asshole for saying I will not like him? I’m not saying I won’t be friends with her for choosing to date him but I am saying that he has not done enough in my opinion for me to forgive his hate speech. Just as she can choose who she does and doesn’t date I can choose who I do and don’t interact with. Am I the asshole for saying I have no interest to get to know the “former” white supremacist she is dating?