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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/PhantasmCat on 2023-06-21 10:45:47+00:00.

So, my parents are divorced and one parent (who I’ll call Angel) has full custody. Recently, there has been a lot of drama regarding the other parent (whom I’ll call Taylor). They’ve been raising up a fuss since I haven’t gone to visit them for several years (because the last visit went badly), and the court ruled I was obligated to visit them for 6 weeks during the summer. Angel knew I’d hate it, so they tried to see if Taylor would split up the visit into three 2-week visits during the summer. Taylor refused, so last summer I went down for 6 weeks.

Now, Taylor isn’t abusive or does drugs or anything, they’re just really bad with relationships. You’ll try to express your opinion, and if they don’t agree with it, they’ll ignore whatever you said, like not even acknowledge you said anything, and try to push their views onto you. Taylor has also antagonized Angel when Taylor talks to people, saying that Amgel is forcing me not to visit. Overall, Taylor is condescending and acts you won’t understand what you are talking about if you say something they don’t like.

So, obviously, my mental health took an dive while visiting, as I was literally considering going on a hunger strike to try and convince Taylor to send me home. Finally, the 6 weeks were up, and I arrived home where I was a complete wreck.

That was a year ago. I’ve tried to explain to my lawyer and Taylor that I have no plans to come visit, as this summer is important. I’m 17, and need this summer to prepare for many things. I literally told them I feel like dying when I’m visiting. They’ve all ignored my many warnings, and Taylor still bought me a plane ticket. I have no intentions of getting on the flight. No one can physically shove me onto the airplane. So, I’m going to take lots of pictures as evidence to show Angel took me to the airport and encouraged me to go (so they don’t blame Angel) and that it was my decision to miss the plane. I can already tell this is going drive Taylor crazy, but I am not capable of going to visit without having dangerous thoughts.

So, am I the jerk for deliberately missing a flight when I warned everyone involved I would not get on?