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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ShowUsYaNungas on 2023-06-21 12:46:17+00:00.

My dad died 12 years ago.

At the time; me, my brothers and my step mother survived him. My brothers were both married, both childless and home owners. I was (and still am) married, had 4 kids (now 5) and was renting.

When my dad was on his death bed, I asked how my step mother would go financially. My dad had a very satisfied and content look on his face and told me “she would be looked after.”

I discovered this meant $220k in life insurance which my dad bequeathed to my step mother in his will. Shortly after he passed, one of my brothers called me asking to help contest the will. I refused. I couldn’t imagine contesting the will and taking that security way from my step mother after knowing what giving that security meant to my dad. As a result, my brothers never contested the will themselves.

After my refusing to contest the will, my brothers alienated me for a few years. We re-kindled our relationship after those few years however things have never been the same. My younger brother blames this on me due to “not backing their play” a dozen years ago.

So, AITA?

Additional context: our parents split when we were all minors. Dad met and later married our step mom when we were all adults. Our step mom was never a part of our upbringing and gave our dad a good life before MND hit and during the years of his decline… and ultimately his passing. She gave us no reason to want to take anything away from her. She was a good wife to our dad.