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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Dascunninglinguist on 2023-08-08 12:54:28.

My girlfriend(34 if it matters) and i(31) work in the same company and on the same job for the same department but in different offices. I work downstairs and she works upstairs.

I have had very tough couple of weeks with 2x workload and 1/2 the staff working with me on my customers while her customers are on a vacation and there is not much for her to do at the moment.

She came down yesterday to search for a document in our archive downstairs to check something. She found a document and requested me to use my computer to check something ( i would have to pause my job, log out, she would log in, check the thing etc, about 5 minutes). I told her there is a computer next to mine which nobody is using and she can use that one. She then told me she never used it and it takes too long to sync( about 5-10 minutes). I told her i’m busy and she could be with me while waiting and that would be fun, we could talk and i could still finish my critical tasks while she is waiting for it to sync. Her eyes got watery and she walks away.

I explained to her via chat how it came out bad but the idea still stands, why should i pause when there is a perfectly good computer next to me? AITA? She blocked me on everything except my number and says vile things to me. I ask her to focus on moving on because it’s such a small thing and she makes it out to be a life changing experience.

On lunch she asked me what i wanted and she brought it to me. I think all is well until she completely ignores me while we eat and when i’m finished and thank her/make small talk to get back to being gf and bf she tells me to go away. Sidenote: 2 women from IT and HR come to me while im away from the table to thank me for my contribution in some ad clip for the company etc. They tell me good job and ask me to come see the clips after lunch.

She then blames me on being too good to others and not at all good to her ever etc.

She then left me at work when we had come together in the morning and made a plan she would drop me off at home and she would continue to go to her massage appointment. I was a bit mad but in the end, i rented a car for 8 EUR(Bolt) and was finding the positives in this situation( as in, got to rent a bolt for the first time and drive a car i have never driven etc, it’s the little things).

When i got home i cooked us a meal which she ignored completely when she got home, she ate random stuff from the fridge instead. I did not make any talk with her neither did she. She then continued to watch Greys anatomy until midnight, i went to bed 21:30 because it’s been tough times and im tired of work, also dont like to argue cause it wears me out.

Help me out please, am i really the asshole?

Edit: sorry for all the typos in the title etc, idk how to fix it.