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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/moneymatters456922 on 2023-08-08 16:53:22.

I (26F) am currently getting close to finishing my first trimester of pregnancy with our first child. While I haven’t had morning sickness (thankfully), I have been nauseous, had insomnia off and on, and have never known this level of exhaustion existed. My fiancé (25m) will often ask me how I’m doing or feeling. However, every single time I say anything other than that I am perfectly fine, he then has to tell me how bad HE feels. If I’m tired, he’s more tired. If I’m nauseated, he has a headache. He words it in a way that tries to make it sound like he has it worse. This is a man with no chronic health issues or unseen disability, to clarify. He will then go the about the rest of his activities as normal, with no indication that he feels poorly in any way. I have previously mentioned that my health isn’t his competition, and that I’d rather he not ask about me at all than try to act like he’s worse every single time. He claims he’s just commiserating. Today, I admit I snapped at him. He asked how I was feeling and I responded that this has been the worst day for me for symptoms so far and I would seriously consider taking off work but am saving my days for later on. His exact words were “You don’t even know. I feel like crap and my head is killing me”. I responded that he needs to quit telling me I don’t know how bad he has it when I am literally growing an entire human, and he is perfectly fine. He said “It’s not a competition and he should be able to complain”, which I feel is missing the entire point. AITA?