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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/hannahmur on 2023-08-08 19:32:28.

My husband (26M) and I (22F) just bought a home a few weeks ago and we have been decorating and settling in. One of the things we decided on was putting a few rugs down as the whole home is hard wood floors. These rugs are a light gray/white color. My husband and I are very much type A people and like to keep a clean and clutter free home so we figured the color of rugs wouldn’t be an issue since we and all of our friends don’t wear shoes indoors at each others houses.

My uncle “E” and his wife, my godfather and his girlfriend, and my aunt “R” drove in from out of state to stay with my mom who lives in a few towns over from me. Mind you, “R” invited herself on this trip and since she is the baby of the family, no one told her no. I invited all of them over for supper to see the new home and spend some family time playing games etc. I put a sign at the front door asking them to take their shoes off as I didn’t want to have to be bossy by telling them to take their shoes off. I figured they’re old enough to read and be respectful. As soon as “R” walked into my home and saw the sign she scoffed and continued to keep walking so I said “I really don’t want shoes to be worn in the house so can you just leave them at the door?” She then proceeded to scoff and storm out of the door, slamming it. She pouted on the doorstep and refused to come in for the rest of the night. My mom then continued to berate me for the rest of the night saying it is not that big of a deal and it’s not customary where they are from to take your shoes off when entering someone’s home. My uncle “E” spent the evening going in and out checking on “R”. My mom then made a weak excuse for all of them to leave saying that she forgot to do something at home. They ended up leaving about an hour after they arrived.

I then texted my mom to tell her that “R” is no longer welcome in my home as this is not the first time she has thrown a fit when I’ve tried to do some sort of family gathering. I was told I am being over dramatic and she should be welcome at anytime.

AITA?

Edit: I would absolutely not press the issue or ask if a guest was elderly or incapable of easily taking shoes on or off! My aunts and uncles are all very mobile and healthy so there wasn’t a health issue or concern with taking shoes on or off.