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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/throwway123432 on 2023-08-08 21:49:13.

I’m sorry if there’s any mistakes or if it’s hard to understand english isn’t my first language and I haven’t used it in a while

15 years ago my first child was born, as the time I was working in a job that was 7am-9pm and my hushed had about the same hours, when our child was born she was sick and the doctor told us that while she will be able to live a somewhat normal life as long as she will have regular treatment and check ups, it was a clear to both of us that we will not be able to manage it along with our jobs and decided that one of us will have to quit. It was easier for me to quit since he was making more money than me while also running his own business so that way I could just come work at his whenever I can and won’t go crazy being at home all the time.

That arrangement had work will for us until lately his doctor told him he need to start working less as the stress is not good for his health, I talked to him about him doing that and me going back to work In my field, my field is all about connections and since now I have a lot more of those than when I started it will probably take me about 3-5 years to get back to my old position instead of the 8 it took me originally.

My husband does not want to do it and he said it’s selfish of me to tell him to do it as I know how much he loves his job and that I’m could “ruin his career” he and his best friends own the company, nothing is going to happen to his place there.

I know it’s kind of selfish to ask him to do that but I want to go back to working in a place I love and I only suggested it because of what his doctor said but I do want to know, AITA?

I have this repeat itself a lot in the comments, I didn’t ask him to quit work, I ask him to cut his work hours from 12 hours to 6-8, the company is his he get a percentage of the money if he work 12 hours 6 hours or doesn’t work at all. Our money income will only increase if I go back to work.