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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/HercHuntsdirty on 2023-08-08 23:20:36.

Preface: I’m 26, my brother is 25.

I just got through a breakup with ex girlfriend of 6 years and have a ton of free time. Since I’m finishing up my masters degree right now, I know I’ll have way too much free time given that I no longer will be in school or have a significant other for the foreseeable future. But, the ultimate fuck you for my ex would be to double up my money and show her what she fumbled.

I work from home for a tech company. I do well financially, I only work realistically 5-10 hours per week and I’m paid for full time hours. I’m interviewing for another tech job right now and I’m hoping I land it so I can just do both full time.

I was talking to one of my buddies over the weekend. He manages a local company and does all of the hiring for them. He mentioned that if I don’t land this second job, he’s got another remote tech job that he doesn’t feel like interviewing/hiring for, and I could have it if I wanted it.

My parents have been gone for a couple months doing some travelling. I called them to tell them about how the interview process was going and that I think I have a good shot at landing the job. I also told them about how I have a backup plan for a second job. She instantly dismissed everything I said and immediately mentioned “your brother would want that second job”.

I’m struggling to see if I’m being greedy by wanting the second job, even though I’ve been interviewing/applying to jobs for a couple months now.

Note - He’s the baby of the family. When I was in my undergrad & working, he was an alcoholic/addict. Anything that needed to be done (regardless of what I had on my plate) was expected of me, and never asked of him. When they left for their 2 month vacation, my mom asked me to make sure I cooked for him, clean the house and do all of the general maintenance that homeownership involves. They even paid for his entire undergrad, while I graduated with 25k debt. Mind you, mine was slightly more expensive, but the principle of it still bothers me.

Obviously I want to see my brother succeed, but I’m torn about this whole debacle. AITA for taking the job that’s being handed out IF the one I’m interviewing for doesn’t work out?

Since it’s been asked a few times - my brother and I are best friends to this day, despite all of the extra stuff that’s been added to my plate over the years from his mistakes & laziness