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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Additional_County150 on 2023-08-09 05:33:26.

I’ve been married to “Chris” for 10 years. Before me, he was married to “Lacey” for 8 but they were together since high school. They have four kids. Chris and I have two.

Lacey hated me. It was beyond our personalities. I think she was bitter over being divorced and seeing the man who she was with since 16 move on. But that’s her problem not mine. We’ve gotten into it a few times. I’m not apologizing to her because I’m happy and she’s not.

Chris and Lacey’s youngest son “Jacob” was diagnosed with stage 3 lymphoma and needed a bone marrow transplant. Unfortunately no one in his family was a match. I also got tested and was a match. Lacey actually asked me if I was going to donate like I’m some kind of witch.

Of course I donated and Jacob is in remission as of this year and is your average 13yo kid. Lacey has started to come around to me because she knows what I did for Jacob. That’s her favorite son. It’s bizarre to have her ask me how I’m doing or send me random flowers.

The truth is that I don’t want to be friends with her. The damage has been done between us and my life is peaceful without her. I’d do what I did a million more times if I had to. No need to shower me with accolades. Just leave me alone. That’s exactly what I told her.

She told me that what I said was the most hurtful thing anyone has ever said or done to her. My husband said I should apologize but I refuse to apologize for setting up boundaries with someone I can’t stand.