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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/assholeaita on 2023-08-09 07:00:47.

(I tried to share this post before but was told to edit and repost.)

I have 2 kids, daughter Bella and son Jack. Bella is 28 and Jack is 32.

Bella is getting married to her fiance, Dave, next year and we’re all beyond excited. Me and my husband are obviously attending and contributing to the wedding.

It’s a little bit of a long story but I’ll share some of the background:

Dave’s dad owns an IT company. Years ago, Jack’s girlfriend at the time got a job at the company but was fired within a year after some issues with the boss and Dave’s sister (and Dave I guess). Jack blamed Dave’s family for kicking out his girlfriend and said she was quiet, so she was the easiest to pick on.

Jack has never been supportive of Bella and Dave’s relationship (they’ve been together for almost 4 years) and said he won’t be attending the wedding.

The issue now is that he got mad at me and my husband for contributing to Bella’s wedding, and even attending. I said we’re not going to force him to go if he doesn’t want to, but he can’t expect us to not be happy. Dave is a good guy from a good family, and more importantly, Bella loves him. Me and Jack had a bit of an argument where he said I don’t care about him and this is something he has to live with. I told him he needs to stop holding grudges and start acting his age. Jack got very upset at that.