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The original was posted on /r/cfs by /u/SinceWayLastMay on 2024-11-16 22:30:38+00:00.

My husband just told me this. And I said “Huh??” And “What??” And “Are you sure this wasn’t some other wife that you’ve been hiding from me this entire time?!?”. I am mostly housebound, okay for a trip to the grocery store some weeks but not much more, can’t really have any social life, hobbies, or employment kind of moderate over here. Why would I agree to take care of a whole ass human baby? Often, frequently, we will both say “thank god we don’t have kids” because thank GOD we don’t have kids. We barely and I mean barely keep the house in a semi-decent condition (I’m disabled and he just, likes it like this? Idk it’s kind of gross in here. I haven’t allowed guests over since I was diagnosed 5 years ago because the house is always a mess). I had to give up my pet RATS because I couldn’t take care of them like I was supposed to, and that was basically washing their cage once every two weeks. A human baby? I volunteered to take on a whole ass baby? Me? I said, out loud, “Why would I agree to that, that sounds like a phenomenally bad idea.” Which was not nice, but for real dude. Now he’s all mopey. What also tickles me is my SIL has a brother who has kids so like… give them the bonus baby. They already have two, what’s a third? Idk I feel like a dick but there is no fluffin way we could handle a human child (and let’s be real, I’m a woman in a heterosexual relationship, I’d be the one taking care of that baby, especially since he works full time). Now he has to tell them we “changed our mind” and I feel like a jerk but I absolutely CAN NOT handle caring for an entire human being. No flipping way.

**I’ll add that I have ADHD and often don’t remember stuff so maybe we did talk about it? But at the same time I can’t think of why I would agree??