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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Acceptable-Nose5144 on 2023-06-21 11:28:54+00:00.

TW: mentions of Eating disorders. please protect yourself and click away if you can be triggered x

So I’m an adult female who lives a block away from my mum. I was anorexic and bulimic for 8 years, ‘weight’ recovered for over a year now. Still struggle with ED thoughts everyday but my job keeps me busy. However my mum has been dropping by and telling me how much weight she has been losing (she used to be slightly overweight) and keeps telling me the exact numbers. She knows I struggled with ED, what my triggers are and how I almost died during covid lockdown when I was at my worst. I have no idea how someone could be so insensitive around their daughter?

She loves dropping by without invitation and gets mad if I’m not home when she does. She lets herself in through the backdoor with her spare key. That key is for emergencies. She has zero respect for my privacy.

The last straw was me coming home to her looking through my suitcases full of old clothes, all spread over on my sofa in the living room. Those clothes were all from my severely underweight days. I put them away for a reason. I was going to donate them to charity when I am mentally strong enough to do so. But no, she was ‘shopping’ for clothes that would fit her (tiny sidenote: she is a whole foot shorter than me so she can fit in those clothes at her healthy weight, she is not starving herself drastically or anything) She said 'you CAN’T FIT in them anyway, so I’LL WEAR THEM FOR YOU. It’s not like you’re losing any weight these days’

I kept my cool and asked her to leave immediately. I was so triggered, hurt and angry at the same time I starved myself that entire weekend. A few days after I changed the locks to my backdoor and she still doesn’t understand what she did wrong. I’ve been ignoring her calls and texts for 2 weeks. AITA?