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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/OrdinaryyGinger on 2023-08-09 16:03:48.

Throwaway because my boyfriend knows my main.

I (22f) recently had surgery. I knew beforehand that it would be hard for me to move around after, so my mom offered to come stay with me for a few days to help out. I discussed this with my boyfriend (26M), he recently moved in with me so it would affect him too. He told me that since he had time off work he could take care of me instead, and that he didn’t feel comfortable with my mom here. So that’s what we went with.

So three days after I got home from surgery I woke up from a nap, alone. I really had to pee, but moved so slowly that I didn’t make it to the bathroom in time. After slowly and painfully cleaning that up, I dragged myself back to bed and took more painkillers. I was starving by the time he came back, but couldn’t bring myself to go all the way to the kitchen.

It turns out that he went to see a movie with friends, and then they all went out to lunch. He was gone for 6+ hours and didn’t think to let me know, or ask someone to stay with me. He thought it was fine since I was sleeping when he left.

I was annoyed, I rejected my mom’s offer to stay here and help because he didn’t want that, he knows i need help getting around for a while. I told him that if he can’t have it both ways, either my mom is coming to help or he has to stay home and help (or they share it / she only comes over when he’s not home). He was pissed at the ultimatum.

AITA?

Tldr: need help after surgery, mom offered, bf didn’t want that and said he’d do it, bf left for several hours without as much as a text. Bf is annoyed that I’m annoyed.