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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/babysharkplate on 2023-08-09 21:28:45.

My husband and I have family dinners at our house every month or so with our family. I have some sets of fine china that I like to switch out between the seasons that I’ve inherited from my grandmother. When we have our get togethers I serve dinner on these plates. My MIL compliments them everytime. My Sister-In-Law, however, has made comments to me that “they’re not her style.” I honestly didn’t think twice her comment about it until this past february when one of my plates was put in the sink, broken. Chalked it up to an accident.

In April we had another dinner. This time SIL was carrying both her and her boyfriends plates to the sink, & accidentally dropped both. Again, no biggie at all. In May she broke two more plates & in June she broke a plate and a cup. At this point I was catching on. I brought up these concerns to my husband and he brushed it off as accidents. I told my mom and she said she thought my SIL was doing it on purpose & got me a camera to put in my dining room.

In July we had dinner, and I had an opportunity arise. My MIL, SIL and her bf joined us for dinner. While our plates were still ON THE TABLE my MIL asked how my plants were doing and I said I’d show her! I told my husband to follow us outside so he could show her the plant he’s growing, leaving SIL alone with her bf. When we came back inside 5 mins later, her plate was broken. When they left, I pulled up the camera footage. I saw her stand up when we walked out and peek around the corner, and then throw the plate on the ground. I kept this video to myself.

That brings me to this past weekend, we had our family dinner and we were joined by My in-laws, SIL & her bf as well as my parents, siblings & niece. I served everyone, saving evil SIL for last. I brought her food out on a child’s plate with a sippy cup and got those kid’s silverware with the plastic handles. She looked at me confused and said “I think you mixed my plate up with your niece’s plate” and I said “No, niece’s name is responsible enough to eat on a grown up’s plate. If you’re going to act like a child in my home, I’m going to treat you like a child in my home.” She tried to play coy but I had my ipad ready and played the video to everyone at the table. She started sobbing, swiped the kids plate off the table and stormed out. My in-Laws both apologized and offered to pay for replacement plates but I told them not to worry about it. Despite this we still had a nice time.

When everyone left my husband told me I was out of line and cruel, but I told him that this has been happening for months & I’ve told him it was bothering me multiple times. It’s Wednesday, he’s still being a little cold to me and I also got a text from my S-I-L’s boyfriend asking me if I would apologize to her because “I really embarrassed her.” I sent him the video again and he left me on read. My husband just called me to ask if I was taunting her boyfriend because his sister called him crying that I was. So, AITA?