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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ComfortableMood6187 on 2023-08-10 00:36:08.

Original Title: AITA for showing my dad the living conditions of my brother’s surrogate after my brother and his partner gave me a free trip to Columbia in exchange for being their translator? Dad has threatened to take my brother off the inheritance.

My brother and his partner are having their first child via surrogate in Colombia. They told me that its a lot cheaper than in the USA and this agency was highly recommended amongst their other gay friends. However, neither of them knew any Spanish, so they wanted me to come down their as their translator to meet their surrogate.

We all fly into MDE and we end up meeting the women call her Carla. Carla was a lovely woman however, after we left the agency and went to her home. We talked more and her situation is bad. She lives in a small shack with her extended family with her three kids (father is not in the picture). Her mother’s leg is covered in warts to the point where she can’t stand. Carla and her kids are sleeping on the floor. It was just really sad. She said that they mainly eat rice and beans but she will take a multivitamin that the agency provides when she is pregnant.

It honestly made the rest of the trip sad. We stayed in El Poblado the nice part of Medellin. When we flew back, my brother said please don’t post any of this on social media as we want this to be private. I respected their wishes and never posted, however I did share it with our parents and some of my close friends.

My dad after seeing this said this was sick. He said that this was exploitation that this woman has no money, and now you have two White men using her uterus to birth White babies. (Dad never liked surrogacy in the first place). He told my brother that they should adopt. He told my brother that he will not get a penny from him if he goes out and does this.

My brother was furious and said that I stabbed him in the back. He said that its their privacy as a family. His partner said that stuff like this is what causes rampant homophobia and stuff like what we see in Texas and Florida. I tried to defend myself and they ignored me and told me that me sharing the pictures crossed a redline.