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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/-CharlotteBronte on 2023-08-10 04:30:10.

Hi. I’m F 32, and I have been in an emotionally abusive relationship with a man of eleven years and I decided to finally leave and start dating women because I’m repressed and always found women more attractive.

I always struggled with anxiety and stress as well, but I wonder if the constant criticism, witholding affection, name calling, and put downs over the years has made my anxiety worse?

My boyfriend will not kiss me or show affection until I improve my mental health anxiety and clean more around the house as I’m lazy but working on it. In the past he has called me a lazy f$$king bitch, said to take an IQ test, said at last you graduated from university at 31, but I have learning disabilities that made it longer to graduate, he makes fun of my parents and friends—he never sees the positives in me anymore even though I do struggle with anxiety. I feel kind of broken and have low self esteem. He said no one will date you because of your mental health and laziness. He said finally you got a good part time job at 31 as a research assistant and he said I am behind in life. I feel like it’s all my fault for everything and I have been crying on and off about it.

I finally started an academic podcast, joined a board, got into a prestigious university master’s and he said great, keep it up, but he worries i won’t stick with any of it. He overall, is not very encouraging and positive. He is 36 and a bit older as well.