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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Winterwere on 2023-06-21 12:28:17+00:00.

Long story short, I (M25) will organize a party to celebrate my degree and it has been 6 years that I’m waiting for this moment, since here in Italy the medical degree is 6 years long.

Today I told my friends to bring their swimsuits and my boyfriend (M26) told me he doesn’t feel comfortable with his body and that he would rather leave if we all go to the sea (since the restaurant is on the beach). I told him it was unnecessary to leave because I don’t think that everyone is going to bring their swimsuit and even if everybody does, we would have done a 10 minutes long bath just to have fun and then we would have stopped. I tried to convince him to bring his but I didn’t insist too much and I told him to either talk with us while standing on the shore or to talk with anybody else, my family and his family will be at the party too.

He was firm and he said I didn’t take into account the fact that he’s uncomfortable with his body and I replied that it’s my party and I would like to take a quick bath in the sea since I never have the chance to.

I started shouting and crying because everyday there’s a problem with my party and I’m so stressed about it. I’d rather not do it but my mother really wants to and I’m too much of a people pleaser to not do it.

He called me an asshole and he hang up the phone call. So do you think I am the asshole for not saying I would have cancelled the swimsuit idea?

Edit: thanks to everybody replying to this thread