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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/SensitiveHamster750 on 2023-08-10 06:16:38.

Backstory 1 month ago: My boyfriend’s (29M) best friend is getting married and he is a groomsman. He was asked to host the bachelor party at our house. I plan to spend the day out of the house. I got a text from my bf saying that I could come back any time after 5. I came home around 6:30. When I get home, everyone is still there along with several girlfriends and the fiancé. I thought the party ended earlier than anticipated but it did not.

Tbh, I felt uncomfortable because it was a bachelor party which is usually just men. But I was told I could come home and there were other girls there so I tried to embrace it. I mingled and helped my bf with hosting(went for a beer/drink run, made sure enough snacks were out, drove drunk people home at the end of the night etc.) I wasn’t really involved in the party activities which I was fine with because I did feel weird being there.

Present day/this past weekend: we’re at the wedding reception, I don’t even remember how it came up in conversation. Bride and groom loudly announce that I crashed the bachelor party and how much of a jerk move that is. Only the wedding party was invited and that’s who all the girlfriends were (I didn’t put this together at the time of the party). I was stunned. But I stood up for myself and said that my bf told me I could come home, so I did and not even right away. They said the invite should have came from them not my bf. To which I said they should be mad at my bf then, not me? I also pointed out that aside from hosting and mingling, I stayed out of their way. Just because I was home (and in another room) doesn’t mean I “crashed” it. I live there! They got increasingly upset at my statement and said it was their wedding day and they don’t want to argue about it. Fine, end of conversation. I didn’t even know it was an issue until that interaction.

My boyfriend was not present for this. I told him what happened and he was furious because the groom told him to call me to come home. But the bride and groom were so drunk that night they don’t remember it.

I’ve been sitting on this for a few days and I’m losing my mind here. It never felt right being at the party. My boyfriend has my back and said they were just drunk and they’ll get over it. They cancelled on our plans tonight but still went without us and posted stories at the restaurant we were supposed to go to. So they’re def still angry. I know typically I’d never be invited to a bachelor party so I’m torn on this.

Tl;dr my boyfriend hosted a bachelor party at our house, I was told I could come home, and when I did the party was still ongoing. I mingled and helped out with “hosting” duties but didn’t partake in much “partying”. A month later, the bride and groom are now angry I was there, called me out at their wedding and are now cancelling plans with us.