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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Upper-Ad-4241 on 2023-08-10 19:17:47.

I (47F) have a son “Sean” (23M) a he’s been dating this guy (41M) for around a year by now, let’s call this guy William. I always accepted Sean’s sexuality and I’ll always do. His father and I have always wanted him to be happy. When I first met William I thought that their age difference was too much. It’s still to much, I’m only 6 years older than him. I’m not a prude, but I wasn’t born yesterday. It’s well known that some older people tend to date younger people to take advantage of them. That’s why his father and I were skeptical about this relationship.

Sean was recently hospitalized and was in coma due to diabetes. I don’t want to get into that but it’s been very rough for the family. He’s fine now, still at the hospital but will be discharged soon. I can admit that William has been helpful during this situation. He spent the first days Sean was in coma talking to doctors and demanding better treatment. We were lucky of William knowing someone who knows head of department so Sean is getting an excellent treatment there. As far as I know William has a very demanding job, even when he was away for work and we were day and night in the hospital he sent us food and anything Sean or us needed.

William told me that he knows we’ve had our differences but that he’s willing to forgive them because he loves my son. I told him that I have all my reasons to disapprove this relationship and that I still don’t approve them being together. I found this very passive aggressive and I consider that he’s doing all of this just to get our approval. William told me that it’s enough of me thinking that he’s a pervert. Keep in mind, I never called him that word.

It’s not that I have something against William, I just honestly still think that it’s too much. He’s almost 20 years older than Sean. He’s been good to him, but they’ve only been dating over a year. My husband who was skeptical at first agrees with William and he’s getting along with him now. It’s very frustrating because no one sees the things I see. I think I might be in the wrong, but I’m just worried.