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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/infusiongames on 2023-08-11 10:15:51.

Hey there, fellow Redditors! I wanted to open up a discussion about something that’s been on my mind and heart lately – the whole marriage situation. You know how life gets when suddenly everyone seems to have an opinion about what you should be doing? Yeah, that’s where I’m at.

So, there’s my amazing girlfriend, and don’t get me wrong, I love her to bits. But it’s like this invisible clock has been ticking, and everyone around us seems to have their hands on the dial, pushing it towards marriage. My girlfriend especially – it’s like she’s on a mission to turn our relationship into a lifelong commitment, and honestly, it’s getting a bit overwhelming.

I can’t help but feel a mix of emotions about the fact that we’ve been together for four years without tying the knot. It’s not that I don’t value our relationship; it’s just that I’ve always envisioned things unfolding at their own pace. And now, the constant “When are you guys getting married?” inquiries are starting to feel like a broken record.

Don’t get me wrong, I understand where everyone’s coming from. Marriage is a big step, and it can offer a lot of security and happiness. But here’s the thing – I’m not sure if I’m ready to take that step just because of external pressure. I’m feeling this conflict between wanting to make those around me happy and staying true to what feels right for us.

I’m hoping this subreddit can help me gain some perspective. Has anyone else been in a situation like this? How did you manage the expectations of others while still honoring your own timeline? I want to hear about your experiences, the discussions you had with your partner, and how you ultimately found a way to navigate this tricky path.

If you’re in the same boat or have valuable insights to share, jump into this subreddit and let’s chat. Sometimes, just knowing you’re not alone in feeling this way can be a huge relief. Let’s figure this out together – how to balance love, personal aspirations, and societal pressures without losing sight of what truly matters.