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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/pastisprologue on 2023-08-11 11:30:13.

I have two long-time friends, both previously obese, who have had gastric bands put on ~9 months ago. We don’t see each other all the time but always have a good catch up when we can. They were both really conscientious and have smashed it out of the park - they’ve lost tons of weight and look like they feel great. Last time I saw each of them I could tell I didn’t quite say the right things based on their reactions (mild, but noticeable). I did feel awkward & wanted to congratulate them and acknowledge the accomplishment but think I made them feel uncomfortable. I’ve been pretty much the same weight my whole adult life so don’t have first hand experience to draw on.

Can anyone please offer suggestions of what to avoid saying, and compliments that are nice?